Even as he struggles, Ian is articulate and often very funny. He did so because he realized he had been using the locker room as a surreptitious way to peek an naked men. Ian recently decided to break a long-standing habit of showering at the gym. He quit college and took a low level job until he can get his life on track. Ian is very bright and is dedicated to his own recovery. He says that had he kept on acting out he would probably be in prison today. Ian was a voyeur and an exhibitionist until he got into recovery. Ian was physically and emotionally abused by his mother and step-mother and sexually abused by his father. He is fit and pleasant looking in a boyish way. He is unable to get abstinent for more than a few days. He doesn’t see that dating a stripper is part of the same fantasy life as his addiction. He has tried to strike up an acquaintance with her but nothing came of it. Tonight Dave talks about wanting to date one of the strippers he goes to see. He uses up all his money on strip clubs and he seems to have little if any other life. He has been acting out continuously by going to strip clubs multiple times per week. He has some kind of job but also gets aid for psychological problems. What he does not say out loud is that he is still in love with porn.ĭave is a short and pudgy guy in his 30’s. He tries to be a glass-half-full kind of guy but it comes off a little forced. Joe admits, in vague general terms, that he does not have sex with his wife.
He cannot find anything to complain about in his childhood. He talks about seeing his grandchildren that week, about singing in the church choir, and about how life is basically good. Joe says that when he first got into recovery he felt like: “Quit porn? You gotta be kidding!” Tonight I see Joe avoiding talking about his marriage. His wife has stuck it out even though he has had relapses every so often.
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Joe is a professional man who lost his job and retired from his career a few years ago after being caught with pornography at work. Joe is married with children and he is active in his church. Joe is a middle-America looking guy in his early 60’s. He has a small mustache, glasses and a paunch. Tom can flash a dazzling smile but in meetings he is mostly in pain, often tearful when he talks about his struggles. He knows he is attracted to angry women who remind him of his mother. He describes his current stormy relationship. Tom has been sexually sober for a few years. He says of the women he has dated: “I wanted to take them prisoner.”
Tom has used pornography, gone to prostitutes, and had extramarital affairs. His father was a sex addict who kept a separate house for women he was seeing. As a child he struggled with learning disabilities. Tom recounts his early history of verbal and physical abuse by his mother. He had been in the program on and off for over 15 years. He is a tall handsome entrepreneur in his 40’s. Tom is the leader for tonight, meaning he talks for a somewhat longer time and chooses a topic for that meeting. “SAA is open to men and women of any religious affiliation or of none….” The readings promise a new way of living “if you want what we have and are willing to go to any lengths to get it…” Then it’s time for sharing. These are short sections taken from the SAA literature that describe the program and the 12 steps. Next certain readings are read aloud by members who volunteer. The meeting starts with the serenity prayer followed by a reading of the guidelines for the meeting: there will be no “cross talk,” meaning you listen to what people say but you don’t respond or comment. People are saying hello and chatting casually there is already a sense of common ground. What follows is a fictionalized account of an average SAA meeting. Would you like to sit in on a Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) meeting? Would you like to hear what real addicts sound like talking about sexually addictive behavior?
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